Superman Does Good

28 Dec

“Superman does good. You’re doing well.”

Tracy Morgan’s “30 Rock” character, Tracy Jordan, admonishes Toofer after he tells him that he’s “doing good.”

I can’t help but think of this every time somebody asks me how I’m doing and I reply with that Southern standard “Oh, I’m doin’ good.”Tracy Morgan’s voice rings through my ears and it makes me think about what I just said.

“I’m doin’ good,” is such a cop out answer. I like to think that if someone asks me how I’m doing, they genuinely want to know the answer. “I’m doin’ good,” says absolutely nothing, except perhaps, that I’m alive enough to say those words.

I read an article a few weeks ago about how we shouldn’t respond to people asking how we’ve been with “I’ve been busy,” for the same reason—it’s a total cop out that doesn’t give anyone a true picture of your current mental, emotional, or physical state.

I’ve started watching myself when people ask how I’m doing and try to formulate a real response instead of just “Doin’ good.”

I try to pick out a highlight of my week or day, something I’m proud of, excited about, or looking forward to. If things aren’t all sunshine and butterflies, I say that too. Not in a Debbie Downer, “My life is miserable,” way, but just in a “You asked me how I’m doing so I’m going to be honest about it,” kind of way.

Surprisingly enough, it’s hard. It’s hard to break the habit of an automatic response. It’s hard to pause before responding to someone, taking time to think about and honestly answer the question “How are you?”

So I challenge you to take some time this week and notice what your response is when people ask you how you’re doing. Do you have a rote response that rolls off your tongue, or are you thoughtful and thorough with your reply? Is it difficult to change your response? One way or another, I hope you’re doing well…

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2 Responses to “Superman Does Good”

  1. marshmallowgreen December 29, 2014 at 9:47 am #

    Oh my goodness! You and I think way too much alike. I’ve thought about this for at least 20 years–almost your whole life. A while back I started answering the question, “How are you”? (only to people I knew well) with, “do you want the real answer or …….?” At first I was afraid I would put people off and they would think I was rude. Actually, what happened is something I never expected One in ten said, “Yes, tell me what’s going on with you”. The other nine chuckled and said, more or less, “no. Just say fine, Mike!” I loved it. It told me exactly what I needed to know. I like the way you think.

    • gschrubbe January 5, 2015 at 2:52 pm #

      Yes! I love that! It’s so simple. Great minds think alike…

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