Of course it’s happening in your head…but why on earth should that mean it’s not real?

28 Feb

 Once I have a conversation more than three times in a week about the same subject, I decide it’s time to write a blog post about it. The recurring topic this week was all about choices, reality, and being responsible for your life.

I have a few snippets from songs and quotes that have been looping through my brain related to this subject. One of my favorite lines from one of my favorite artists, Janelle Monae, is “You’re free but in your mind, your freedom’s in a bind.”

Let that sink in.

I see it everywhere. In myself and in others. It’s so easy to feel stuck—to think you are in an inescapable situation. A job that you just can’t quit. A relationship that you just can’t leave. A negative thought pattern about yourself that you can’t stop. I call BS. Every day you make a choice to continue those actions.

Yes, we live in a culture where there are societal norms. Yes, we are taught that the path to success looks a certain way or that we should strive to have certain things—a “good” job, a “great” relationship, an adorable dog.

But every day you wake up and choose to go through the motions of your life. Nobody is forcing you to do anything really. Yes, bills need to get paid, food needs to be eaten, we can’t all just sit around and binge watch “Orange Is The New Black,” on Netflix, but regardless, we have an incredible amount of freedom in our lives.

Nobody is forcing you to do anything. I had to repeat that because it’s so important. You are unequivocally in charge of your existence. You can’t control the world, but you can choose how you are going to live within it.

I’m a firm believer that the biggest obstacle in your path is yourself. I hold myself back constantly… “Oh, I can’t write a novel because I don’t write fiction,” or “I can’t make a website because I don’t have any design skills.” Any number of ridiculous and limiting excuses will come up when I want to do something— all created and plated by moi.

So we have the power to hold ourselves back indefinitely, but the flip side of that is that we have an amazing power to create our own realities. For me, the best illustration of this comes from Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows when Dumbledore says, “Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?”

I’ve already written about how Dumbledore is a very yogic figure (“Guru Dumbledore”), so I won’t get into that, but his words are striking.

You’re in the driver’s seat. This is your life. What’s in your head doesn’t have to stay there…it can be your reality. “You’re free but in your mind, your freedom’s in a bind.”

Take action to live fully and freely. How have you put your own freedom in a bind? Am I being too idealistic? Too millennial? Is our society not as free as we think it is?


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