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Radio Talk: Salsa Date

1 May

Last night, I was invited to be a guest on “Love Bent and Adventure Bound,” a weekly radio show hosted by Ben-Jamin Toy and his co-hosts, Sparkle and Eric. The show’s main focus is adventure dating, and Ben asked me to talk about Salsa dancing and if Salsa makes for a good date.


I had to think about it before I went on the show. Personally, I would not use going to Salsa as a date and have pretty strong opinions about dating within your hometown Salsa scene (but I won’t get into that here). Also, I wouldn’t bring a guy that I’m just starting to date to Salsa, especially if he didn’t really dance (“Hey honey, sit down and watch me dance for three hours). However, I recognize that it’s different for me as an instructor and Salsa addict than it is for someone who has maybe never danced before.

So that caveat aside, yes, I do think that taking Salsa classes and then going out dancing socially would be an excellent date.

Probably not a first date, but if you’ve been going out with someone for a few weeks or months and are ready to mix it up a little bit, taking Salsa classes together would be great. You would be bonding over the shared experience of learning a new skill, have an opportunity to take your burgeoning (or established) relationship out of the one-on-one date realm, and be introduced to a whole world of passion and excitement that I think can sometimes be difficult to tap into (My buddy Richie discussed the passion that Salsa awakens in people here).

However, I would caution people who are taking classes as a couple to avoid falling into the trap of just dancing with your guy or girl.

For non-dancers, one of the most difficult parts of social dancing can be when your significant other (or date) is dancing with other people. But trust me ladies and gentleman, it’s for everyone’s own good.

You will never improve as a dancer if you don’t test yourself and dance with other people—if you get too used to dancing with just one guy, you won’t actually learn how to follow, you’ll just memorize your guy’s moves and it will get boring really fast. The same thing applies to leads—you’ll think you’re a great lead because your girl has memorized your moves, not because you’re actually leading them well.

So, if you’re planning to take Salsa classes with your significant other or someone you’re tryna holler at, be prepared to dance with lots of other people. For some, it requires a degree of trust that can be uncomfortable if you’re a jealous type of person, but when you realize that a dance can just be dance, it frees you up to enjoy dances with other people. Then, when you dance with your significant other or date, you can change the attitude and make it a little bit more sensual, flirtatious, silly, sexy—whatever your chemistry and style dictates.

I probably didn’t articulate any of what I’ve written here during the interview, but I did impart some wisdom that I think is invaluable to all Salsa dancers, whether on a date or not:

Ladies, test drive your skirts before you take them out dancing. Salsa wardrobe malfunctions are the kind of malfunctions.


Blame it on the Boogie

10 Jul



Salsa congress is probably the most fun thing ever. That is, if you like four days of Latin dance workshops, pool parties, performances, and open dancing to live bands and DJs with thousands of other people from every corner of the country. I’m not a total stranger to the salsa congress scene—I’ve attended a few in Atlanta and Greenville, South Carolina, but the 2013 Orlando Salsa Congress took my congress experience to a whole new level.

Salsa congress bears no resemblance to a governing body—it’s not like all the dancers are convening to pass bills about the allowable number of double turns within one song or the parliamentary procedure of asking a girl to dance. There are no Senate hearings regarding improper footwork or new regulations on dance shoe heel height.

No, there’s no filibustering or bipartisanship at a salsa congress. Everyone can agree: We love to dance.

The Latin root congressus means “to come together,” and that’s exactly what a salsa congress is—a coming together of salsa lovers (read: addicts), from barely beginner to lifelong professionals.

Me, jamming with this guy. He had a mean cha-cha

Me, jamming with this guy. He had a mean cha-cha

The experience can be a little bit overwhelming. Which workshops should I attend? Should I go ask somebody to dance? Will everyone think I’m lame for leaving the dance floor at only 5 a.m.?

As a dear friend, teacher, and fellow salsera always says, “It’s a marathon. You have to pace yourself.”

Though it’s tempting to attend all seven hours of workshops, and in the case of Orlando, the afternoon pool party, plus the three or four hours of showcases and subsequent five, six, or seven hours of social dancing, five-hour energy shots and muscle milk will only get you so far.

By my estimate, with pacing myself, I danced 20 hours over the three days that I was there. How could I have done any less surrounded by so many people who have a passion and excitement for the same thing as me—dance.


Salsa music is infectious. It’s based mainly off of Cuban popular dance rhythms, but, like it’s name implies, it’s a “sauce” comprised of rhythms from all over the Americas and these days, the world.**

When salsa music plays, it’s hard to sit down, especially in a congress setting where you can dance with some of the most talented and dedicated salseros in the country. It’s like an improv jam session with musicians, except you are the musician, and you have to play off of whatever your partner throws you.

Dancing is like having a conversation with someone. Some people are easier to talk to, and the rhythm of the conversation flows a little easier. Some you have to work  harder to keep the “conversation” afloat, but at the end of the dance, you’ve made a connection with someone and shared a moment.

I was talking to someone once and we were discussing those moments that make you feel most alive. I couldn’t identify a specific moment—every time I get the chance to step out onto a dance floor, I get this electric energy, that kind of adrenaline rush that people jump out of planes or travel to the Grand Canyon for.

I strongly believe that everyone can dance and everyone should dance and the few thousand ladies and gentleman at the 2013 Orlando Salsa Congress certainly proved that a handful of people agree with me.

Oh, and I already bought my ticket to September’s Hotlanta International Salsa and Bachata Congress…




**Stay tuned for a more in-depth look at the history and politics of salsa music, it’s complicated and not really the point of this post.